We all have friends, and we treat our friendships differently from the way we treat our romantic relationships. Friendship means an unbreakable commitment to some people, but it’s not. This is because friendship, just like any other relationship, can end. People grow, change or become distant and mean. And you can end a friendship if it does not serve you again just like anything else.
If you like to end a relationship with friends, those friends must be “Toxic Friends”; Toxic Friends are those friends that are affecting you and making you feel bad. Such friends are usually emotionally demanding, selfish and in constant competition with you. They do talk behind your back and are always in the mood of putting down your face, and you may not wand such friends again in your life.
You can always drop a toxic friend because there is no obligation to be in friendship with someone. If you are finding it hard to drop a toxic friend, here are some ways you can drop toxic friends politely and for good:
Always be honest with your friend and with yourself. Never phase someone out. If you phase a friend out, you may turn out to be as toxic as they are except for casual acquaintances, friends and party pals who will only be expecting you on a Friday night at the bar. You only have to communicate your desire to a friend you see always to drop them. They may be hurt if you drop them suddenly.
Put yourself first
In a relationship with a toxic friend, there are chances that you are always putting the needs of your friend first while sacrificing your own needs and happiness. Always try to put yourself first when you are trying to drop a toxic friend. Think and get what YOU need to make YOU happy for a long time without thinking about a friend or the guilt of dropping a toxic friend. Once you put yourself first, you will drop a toxic friend politely and with no stress.
If one of your toxic friends that you are trying to drop is sniffing you out, do not engage even if they are trying to create a scene. Just ignore anything such friend is saying behind your back and assume you don’t hear anything. Decline your engagement with such friend politely even if you get angry. A friend that is good in creating a scene will find a way to rope you into their theater. Just be clear about your intention to drop them.
Don’t be sentimental
No matter how toxic friendship is; it will have its good moments. When you think about how you start with such friend (the fun times and the laughter), you may want to continue the relationship; instead, do not romanticize your past no matter how tempting it might be. You can always find a way to drop them if you have had a good time together in the past. Don’t be sentimental about friends who do not deserve it. Move closer to those friends who enrich your life and forget about those meaningless ones.
Block and unfollow them on social media
We are always very close to our friends on social media; technology makes it more difficult to distance ourselves. Don’t give room for a toxic friend to cajole or bully you. Once you set boundaries, stick to those boundaries. Prevent them from contacting on any social media website, shut down email conversations with a toxic friend and with time; you will drop them.